If “Plan A” Doesn’t Work, Don’t Worry. The Alphabet Has 25 More Letters.

We have this idea that if our plans don’t work out, we’ve failed. And over time, it becomes not just about situations and plans failing—we start to label ourselves as failuresWhen we do that, we develop a mentality that disables us from progressing forward because we want to avoid the pain of feeling like a failure, and we automatically begin to assume we’re likely to fail at any big goal we set. 

This is why the word “failure” sucks. It is the starting point of a spiral of negative thinking that gets you absolutely nowhere. 

Here’s the thing. 

What you’re excited about most isn’t achieving some far-off end goal. It’s the idea of progress and growth that you’re after. It’s that feeling you get after a day of hard and focused work—the feeling that your day mattered, that you progressed, that you grew and helped others grow. 

Sometimes, getting so caught up in your “plan” does the opposite of what it was intended to do. You’re so busy trying to follow a specific plan in one corner, that you miss the bigger possibilities in another corner. 

Planning is important. But, equally so is flexibility. Stuff is always going to come up. You’re going to have lazy days. You’re going to get sick occassionally. There will be family and friend and work emergencies. Sometimes, you’ll just need a day off to chill out and play in the sun. 

It’s less about being set on one plan, one way of things being possible—and more about how your head, heart and gut are all working together within yourself. 

Each of those three “places” out of which you make decisions come with their own set of strengths and challenges:

  • Your head will try to be rational and safe when you should be taking big leaps and defying odds instead. But it will also keep you grounded and focused so you can implement whatever big plans you develop.
  • Your heart (i.e. crazy-ass feelings) will create strong urges in you to make impulsive decisions based on how you’re feeling in the moment (otherwise known as short-term gratification). But, it’s also the part of you that will help you connect authentically with yourself and those around you. It’s the source of giving and receiving love.
  • Your gut is just awesome. It will never lead you the wrong way. It takes practice to get really in-tune with your gut, so as not to mistake it with thoughts that stem from your head and/or heart. But once you tune in and understand what is gut and what isn’t, you’ll know exactly what you should do whenever you get a “gut feeling.” The downside to listening to your gut is that you can come across as irrational, impulsive, inconsiderate, and non-PC to others. Just remember that the reason you’re coming across that way to them is because they’re struggling with their own dramas and aren’t quite in-tune yet with their own guts. Be gentle with them and yourself. Follow your gut always anyway.

Your job is to make sure you maximize the strengths of all three, while consciously mitigating the challenges of each. 

When you are aligned within yourself, you’ll have a very different perspective on your plans—you’ll be far less attached to them, and as a result, better able to get to where you want to go regardless of what the plan ultimately looks like. 

Because the truth is, if Plan A doesn’t work, there are 25 other letters in the alphabet. 

Worry less about your plan, and more about how you’re thinking through it.

The Three Ways We Make Decisions: Head, Heart, and Gut

We make decisions out of three different places. 

The head, heart, and gut. 

The Head

When you make decisions with the head, you’re using logic, rationality, and historical patterns as your framework.

The Heart

When you make decisions with the heart, you’re using emotion, feeling, empathy, and desire as your framework. 

The Gut

When you make decisions with the gut, you’re using an internal, certain, unexplainable “knowing” at the core of who you are as your framework.

The mainstream conversation is always about the head and the heart, but rarely the gut. And that’s unfortunate, because I strongly believe the gut is the absolute first framework one should make decisions out of. 

It’s fairly easy to discern when you’re using your head vs. your heart; rationality and emotion are, well, different thingsBut, it’s harder to discern when you’re using your heart vs. your gut. 

So, let’s talk about heart vs. gut for a moment. 

Heart has a lot to do with emotion and empathy. When you make decisions based on your “feelings,” you’re likely operating out of the heart. Your gut, on the other hand, is an instant knowingIt’s the calm and certain sense you get about whether you are or are not supposed to do something. 

Some call it intuition. Some call it the soul. Some call it God. Some say, “I just know.” 

Your feelings can amplify the sound of your gut when both are in line. But often, feelings stem from many other things: fear, anxiety, personal relationship dynamics, season of life.

When you make decisions based primarily on feelings, that’s when you stay in the wrong relationships longer than necessary, stay at the wrong jobs way longer than necessary, and make choices you wind up regretting. And on the note of regret, people commonly say, “I have none”—but let’s be real—we all have things we wish we could have done differently.

It’s so important to recognize our feelings because they help us understand how we react to particular triggers, or in certain circumstances. But, understanding feelings and being run by them are two very separate things.

My feelings have been off at times. But my gut? That’s never been off. Never. 

I know you know what I’m talking about. We’ve all had moments or made decisions where we were just absolutely certain—moments when we were terrified of something, but knew we had to do it, anyway. Moments where we “just knew” we were supposed to pick up and move, start a relationship, get out of one, take a job, leave a job, go to an event, walk down a random street. It had nothing to do with logic, and nothing to do with a feeling, either. 

We all have these moments of incredible grace. The more we listen to it, the louder we’ll hear the calling of our gut. Intuition. Soul. God. 

So, my challenge to you is to get more in touch with yours. The next time you are, all of a sudden, washed with a feeling of total serenity about something terrifying, or very certain about a perceivably irrational decision, trust it. Run with it. 

If you discover what I’m discovering, I think you’ll learn that joyful decision making has nothing to do with the head or the heart. 

It has to do with the part of you that just knows. 

It has to do with your gut.